An experience that I felt I had to adjust to while I was in New Zealand was when I learned that New Zealanders tend to be a bit more reserved and keep to themselves. I have spoken briefly about this in my previous post where I examined cultural differences. I mentioned in my last blog that I have not experienced major culture shock, nor have I witnessed many differences. Although, one area where I did notice a difference was in mannerisms and social ideologies. New Zealanders tend to be reserved, which I found different to American culture (especially in the South) where people are more outwardly friendly. Therefore, anytime I displayed overtly friendly behavior I would sometimes get looks or a polite smile in response. This is certainly not to say that New Zealanders are not kind, friendly, or welcoming people. I have met so many amazing friends and peers in New Zealand! In response to this cultural difference, I respected the norm in certain situations. I think it is important for me to acknowledge that being reserved is not a characteristic of every New Zealander. I have had experiences where strangers were friendly and asked questions the same way many Americans do. My observation is that it is more common for Americans to be friendly and open with strangers that it is New Zealanders. I think if a New Zealander came to the U.S. and was met by strangers introducing themselves or asking questions about them, it would likely come as a surprise. But hopefully a pleasant surprise. I think that New Zealanders would respond politely and kindly. I could also see how it may feel overwhelming or uncomfortable to someone from New Zealand as well – it all depends on the situation. I think reflections like this are important because they help me think critically about my experiences and try to understand from more than just my own perspective, which is an important life skill. I think cultural misunderstandings happen often and can escalate into hostility if neither person is able to analyze and reevaluate the situation. By doing these reflections myself I am practicing for future experiences. Often times participating in reflections like this is a good way to build empathy and compassion for another person, this is something I have noticed in myself when writing reflections. Ultimately, I understand the value and personal benefit that I receive from taking part in these activities.
