When I think of aspects of culture in the United States, I often think of the undertones of informality that are prevalent in our society. For example, in the English language, we do not have separate pronouns based on degrees of formality, unlike many other languages. Although we respect authority figures, it is also acceptable to challenge authorities and speak to them directly. Additionally, it is common for people to address older generations as equals. As for other areas of culture, in school it is acceptable to wear a wide variety of clothing ranging from sweatpants to suits. Sometimes, one can even see students addressing professors by their first names. In the workplace, it is common to see individuals make friends at work or attend work parties. Differences in age do not affect interactions amongst workers as much as other societies.
For the most part, I enjoy the informality that is prevalent in the United States. Oftentimes, greater degrees of formality make me nervous because I am more aware of social structures and hierarchies in society. Usually, I am anxious that I will say the wrong thing to people. However, I do believe a degree of formality is beneficial because it brings along with it a sense of respect. That respect is incredibly important as a basis for understanding each other and our autonomy. Degrees of formality can also be helpful because they give a set of rules for social situations, which can make interactions easier.
Depending on the area of the world, some may believe that the United States is either too informal or not informal enough. In the past, I was surprised to find out that I offended a friend’s mother by addressing her with Mrs. followed by her last name. I found out later on that it was odd to address parents of a close friend with those levels of formality in that culture. It was seen as distant or cold. I quickly fixed this and started addressing her by her first name. As for other areas, informality may be seen as rude or disrespectful. It may be taken as an insult, even if it was meant in a friendly matter. Friendliness and respect can have different meanings depending on the culture or even the individual.
Understanding the degree of formality in a society is very important to demonstrate respect for those living there. From personal experience, I know that Germany tends to be a little more formal compared to the United States. Oftentimes, one can find a person with multiple different titles. It can be disrespectful not to use all of those titles in certain situations. Additionally, it would be unacceptable to use the pronoun “du” towards an authority figure such as the police. It could even get a person into trouble. Timeliness is also incredibly important in German society. Being late can be considered very rude. Going to Germany, it will be beneficial to remember that a level of formality will be needed in areas such as school and my internship. By increasing my level of formality in certain situations, I will be able to show thoughtfulness towards German culture and those living there.